And yet, the only way to bring sex into your new love life is by slipping sex into the picture when both of you spend a lot of time texting each other and speaking over the phone.

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But experts say that even though it may seem like you’re getting to know the person better before your date, it’s actually a false sense of intimacy — and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

“It’s a trend we’ve coined ‘premature escalation,’ ” explains Emily Morse, a sex and relationship expert and host of the “Sex With Emily” podcast on i Tunes. by the time you meet your partner for an actual date, you’ve built up this whole image and fantasy in your head of who you think they are, and then they turn out to be totally different.” That’s what happened to Kenny Thapoung, an editorial assistant from Bed-Stuy.

I found out my fiancé had been receiving more than friendly texts from a woman that he previously worked with.

We had a horrific argument which ended in me leaving with our 9 month old baby – as my fiancé would not show me his mobile phone bill to prove he had not been participating in these texts.

[Read: Perfect things to talk about with the person you like at any stage of the relationship] Or what if you want to talk naughty but are too scared to initiate a dirty conversation? And both of you want to take the next step into the seduction game, but just don’t know how to start talking dirty without making it seem like it’s all going too fast.

Dirty texting games to your rescue Almost all the time, bringing sex into a new game of love is tricky.

If the phone rang, in the past, it was most probably a close friend or someone calling to arrange a social event (like a match in a golf tournament).

Any body in the house might answer and everybody had a rough idea of each other’s friends and engagements.

“Since our whole world is so instant now, people can craft entire personas through their slew of texts . “I met a guy briefly at an event, and we started texting.