Know what to expect on anniversaries, birthdays and other days that were special to your new partner and his/her late spouse.

Being aware and understanding about another person's feelings allows you to be gracious and sensitive to your new partner.

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Last week I asked readers to contribute their experiences about how they handled the dating a widower when minor children (from him and/or her) were involved in the relationship.

I received a bunch of good thoughts ideas that I hope can help those who find themselves in similar situations.

TALKING ABOUT A LATE SPOUSE: SHOULD YOU ASK QUESTIONS? If a couple were married at a young age, married a long time, or have children/grandchildren, it is going to be very difficult to talk about his/her life without mentioning a late spouse.

This can only be threatening to you, if you allow it to be. He or she is not coming back, so you are not going to lose your new mate to him or her. In general, when you get to know someone you want to share your past with him or her. This time it just happens to include a person that is no longer alive.

(If there are other widowers out there who still want to contribute, please email me.) For those who comment on these posts, keep in mind that each family and child is different.

What works for one family/child may not work for yours.

Dating can be complicated and especially so when the man has teenage children.

In such a relationship, the woman has to contend with normal dating issues, as well as those from the man's earlier life.

He calls during the week sometimes 1-2 times, only when his daughters are not around. I have met his younger daughter and have gone out to dinner with them. Have not met his mother, brother, his older daughter, yet.

I know his older daughter (age 19)does not approve of her dad dating. I think he is feeling guilty about leaving them, when he is with me. Only once did I go to his has when the girls were not home, for 10 minutes…that was it.

Women who date a divorced or widowed dad must give serious consideration to every aspect of the relationship and how it would affect everyone concerned.