After being cheated on, lied to, ghosted, and just generally treated like dirt, we naturally become jaded and develop some major trust issues. Compassion and nurturing is in our nature, but battling trust issues changes the game completely for us and for our prospective future partners.

When we meet someone new, for example, rather than reacting with pure excitement like we did when we were younger, we are skeptical. How quickly can we find out his true motives so we don’t waste our time or get hurt again?

Do you want to make your relationship work, or end it and pursue the person you’ve cheated with?

And what about forgiveness—can you even ask for it?

It’s devastating and leaves you with a bitter aftertaste from which one barely recovers.

You trust no one post that experience and your mind is constantly filled with suspicion.

Here are some of the main ways in which we love differently, and how you can help break down those walls if you want to be the one we do end up trusting.

communicate from a distance while observing you astutely to determine if you’re trustworthy or not.So, you're currently in a relationship but your intuition is telling you that your significant other might be committing some dirty crimes behind your back.Or maybe, you've just confirmed that that's true and now ya'll are broken up.We're sorry you had to go through that horrific situation, but now you can indulge in something amazing: music. Deeply sad, dramatic music that you can cry to and self-empowering music that you can dance to with other (and better) guys. Feel free to send your anonymous letters, peeps.) 1.The 1975 - "Somebody Else" This is probably the song that started playing in your head right when you first found out.That low, stomach-churning synth and Matthew Healy softly singing in your ear, "So I heard you found somebody else..." Yeah.